Woman fights with mother-in-law over pregnancy announcement: 'I was floored'
The time between finding out you are pregnant and sharing the news can be delicate, which is why many couples choose to wait until the end of the first trimester to do so.
Then there are those who can't help themselves and blurt it out much sooner.
One woman is dealing with the consequences of this, after her husband told his mother about their pregnancy news.
Many couples choose to wait until the end of the first trimester to share pregnancy news. Getty
The woman explains on Reddit's "Am I The Asshole' thread the pregnancy wasn't planned and she and her husband are "trying to make a decision regarding going through with the pregnancy".
She says she told her husband not to tell anyone but he ended up telling his mother but made her swear she wouldn't tell.
"He didn't tell her we aren't sure about it but just to stay quiet," she says.
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The Redditor's husband told his mother about the pregnancy, and asked her not to tell anyone. Getty
"Well, She begged and begged that she announce it on her Facebook under the guise of using our permission but I said absolutely not, and lied and said my husband and I wanted to announce it ourselves later if we decide to go through with it.
"Just a day ago I found out she logged into my husband's Facebook account and dropped the bomb (made the announcement and yes she pretended to be my husband!) behind our back.
"I was floored. I called her and she said she figured if she made the announcement using one of our social media accounts then we won't mind and it'd still look like we made the announcement. But like I stated earlier, we're still trying to make a decision. I lost my temper and yelled at her which made her cry. I said she overstepped and messed up completely then hung up."
Her husband became upset at her "poor treatment and abuse" towards his mother.
The woman's mother-in-law shared their news on Facebook, which has led to a serious family conflict. Reddit
"I told him his mum violated our privacy and put us in more pressure to finally make a decision for the baby since the family are now calling to say 'congratulations'," she says.
"He said that it was his fb so none of my privacy was 'violated' and that I shouldn't have yelled and hurt her feelings and made her cry no matter what, period. He demanded I apologise and we'll talk about the pregnancy later but I didn't give an answer and refused when he tried to force me to go to her house and grovel with apologies."
She asks the forum if she is in the wrong in this situation.
"Quite frankly, you need to truly consider if you want to have a child with this man, because this behavior (his, and his mother's) is only a wind-up," one writes. "It will get worse."
Another suggests the man wants to proceed with the pregnancy and has used this situation to "force the decision".
"Like she so clearly crossed a line and the fact that neither of them see it that way is very concerning," another comments.
'I said she overstepped and messed up completely then hung up.' Getty
Another writes: "Think hard about whether you want to be tied to this family for the next 18 years. Is your husband going to yell at you and side with his mom every time you disagree about your kid? Termination and say you miscarried is one option. Sounds like your husband's family is trying to force your hand. This marriage sounds over already tbh (to be honest)."
"Abortion and divorce," another bluntly states.
"Yes...why does she have his FB (Facebook) password?" another asks. "Sounds like she also has other SM (social media) passwords as well. This is so odd and a HUGE red flag. Add the fact that he feels mommy did nothing wrong and wife needs to apologize? I see an awful future ahead."
