Why jokes about premature ejaculation are no laughing matter: 'A quick way to damage someone'
MAFS is a confronting show. That's what it's designed for. But it rattled me for all the wrong reasons on Sunday night when Olivia said this to Dom:
"In week two, when you were in my apartment, in front of all us girls, you said Jack can't f--k you right because he c--s too quickly."
My heart bleeds for Jack.
Nearly all blokes make jokes about arriving too early. When Woody and I were hosting Ninja Warrior earlier this year, a lot of guys with 'fast times' would often say things like, 'Well I'm used to being quick, just ask my wife.'
Watch the clip above.
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Olivia and Dom touched on the topic of premature ejaculation during Sunday night's MAFS episode, and it's a sign we need to change the conversation. Nine
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As with all things men are scared of, we joke about them. But for the blokes who tell me (blind drunk) that they've got an issue, it's far from that. This might be hyperbole, but imagine if your primary function of existence wasn't working?
I think what annoyed me most about Olivia's language was that she implied the reason you have sex is just to get your rocks off. Is that always the goal? Or is that just something pop culture has taught us?
As sexologist Nikki Goldstein once suggested to Woody and I on the show, "If that's the only goal, you're probably better alone with a laptop for a few minutes."
My partner was probably the first to teach me that sex is often not about that. It's more of a chance to connect.
Men often joke about having 'fast times', but premature ejaculation is a real source of shame for many. Getty
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Like anything, if you're thinking or striving for the 'goal', you miss out on all the good stuff. And, correct me if I'm wrong, but when it comes to a climax in general, if that's the only purpose, it's often elusive.
So often we expect our partners to subliminally know what we want in the bedroom. Because of this, sometimes my partner will let me know what she's up for beforehand — just so I know where the goalposts are.
Will McMahon and Woody Whitelaw from KIIS FM's Will & Woody radio show. Instagram / @willandwoody
Shame is at the heart of men's mental health. So to laugh at a bloke for not achieving his 'duty' is a quick way to damage him. And just like all societal issues, it's not the people struggling who need to change.
Surely if you are after the big 'O' with a bloke, maybe spend less time ragging on him and more time showing him how.
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