Money Manners: 'Should I help pay for my sister's wedding?'

Money Manners is 9honey Money's weekly column that deals with money etiquette matters that can be the cause of many an awkward encounter.

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This week's question comes via a 9honey reader and deals with a tricky wedding dilemma.

Dilemma: Should I help pay for my sister's wedding?'

I've always been a good saver. My family knows I have a bit of money put aside in addition to owing my own place, with a mortgage of course, and I've been wondering if I should use it to buy a second apartment or maybe take some time off and travel.

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My little sister, who is not a good saver, is getting married next year and my parents have just told her they can't give her much towards the cost of the wedding and the groom's parents can't give them anything. My mum asked me if I could contribute and I thought she was joking at first but I don't think she was.

I am not married and I am not in a relationship at the moment and I do have the money to spare.

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I just never thought this expectation would be set. I pretty shocked to be honest. I just said I'd think about it and I am not sure what answer to give them.

Advice: 'The answer is no'

I really don't think you should give any money to your sister for her wedding.

You are not her personal piggy bank. I'm also pretty shocked your mum asked you to contribute. You are not the parent and are under no obligation.

It's not your job to make up for your family member's financial shortfalls.

If it were an emergency situation like a medical emergency then I'd definitely consider it, but I imagine even in this situation they'd eventually pay you back.

The fact they didn't even ask to borrow the money is a bit of a flag.

Weddings are optional, and they can be done on a budget, and they can be done on a later date quite easily.

Perhaps you can tell them you have plans for that money and won't be able to contribute as a result, to soften the blow.

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I know this may be difficult consider what some family dynamics are like, but if you agree to this who knows what they will ask you to pay for next.

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