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Dying father records message for young daughters

Jo Abi
Jo Abi

A father with cancer has recorded a goodbye message to his young daughters, telling them to "stick together" and to "remember the happier times" after his death.

Steve Durant, 40, from Portishead in the UK, was diagnosed with oligoastrocytoma in 2014, a brain tumour that will ultimately claim his life before his daughter's are grown.

He was initially told the tumour was 'dormant' however began suffering seizures in 2016 and told the tumour was now a grade three.

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He has five years to live at most.

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"Steve is living with terminal brain cancer," the video begins. "He wanted to record a message to his daughters Isobel, seven, and Phoebe, three, for when he can't be there for them.

"Unfortunately, at three and seven years old, I won't be here for a large part of their developmental years," he said in a video filmed with Cancer Research UK.

"I plan to make a series of videos to tell them how much I love them and how much they mean to me.

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"Give them something to look back on that isn't going to be too painful for them."

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In one of the videos, he talks about how they've probably noticed that he's losing his hair, has been tired and hasn't been able to do all the things they've wanted to do with him.

"I hope you didn't notice any difference between me and any of the other parents that you've seen round and about," he says.

The father-of-two is recording videos for his young daughters. Image: Steve Durant/Cancer Research UK

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"I hope in some way I've provided you with a little inspiration because hopefully by now I've given you your wings and taught you to fly."

In another video, Durant tells his girls to remember him by his love for them, not for when he was sick.

"You guys are all you've got so stick together," he says in the video. "Take the bad with the good and just think. Remember how it felt when I put my arms around you and hold you close.

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Durant was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumour in 2014. Image: Steve Durant/Cancer Research UK

"If you ever need to have me there to support you then just close your eyes and remember how it felt when I put my arm around you and pulled your head into my chest and told you everything is going to be okay.

"If that's the closest I can be if that's the most I can give then hopefully that will provide you with a little bit of support."

Wife Liza said the girls are helping the couple deal with her husband's disease.

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Daughters Isobel and Phoebe face a future without their father. Image: Steve Durant/Cancer Research UK

"The kids always help. Just looking at them. Especially our youngest, she can make anyone smile.

"Our eldest knows daddy is unwell but we don't want to scare her."

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The father-of-two is doing his best to make the most of the time he has left, training for a half-marathon and working with Cancer Research UK on a series of videos.

WATCH: 9Honey discusses the heart-breaking messages.

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